How to Find a Prom Date

Prom is one of the most exciting events of your high school life, and you may want to share it with someone special. But what if you don’t have a date yet? Don’t worry, there are plenty of options for finding a prom date that don’t involve swiping right on a dating app. Whether you have a crush, a friend, or someone you barely know, here are some easy and fun ways to ask them to prom.

1. Your Crush

The obvious choice, but also the most nerve-wracking one. If you have a crush on someone, prom is the perfect opportunity to ask them out. But how do you do it? Here are some tips:

  • Make sure they’re not going with anyone else. You don’t want to embarrass yourself or them by asking someone who’s already taken.
  • Start flirting with them. Show them that you’re interested by complimenting their outfit, finding an excuse to talk to them, or sitting next to them during lunch or class.
  • Be creative and confident. Don’t just ask them casually, make it memorable. You can use a clever sign, a cute gift, or a funny joke to pop the question. And don’t be shy, be confident. They’ll appreciate your courage and sincerity.

2. The Friend Date

If you don’t have a romantic interest, or you’re not ready to ask them out, you can always go with your friend. Going with your friend has many advantages:

  • You already know you get along, and you have fun together.
  • You don’t have to worry about awkwardness, pressure, or expectations.
  • You can still dance, take pictures, and enjoy the night.

If you happen to have a crush on your friend, prom could also be a great way to find out if you two are romantically compatible. Just make sure you’re on the same page, and don’t ruin your friendship over it.

3. The Date From Another School

Your prom date doesn’t have to attend the same school as you. In fact, going with someone from another school can make your prom more interesting and exciting. You can meet new people, learn new things, and have a different perspective. How do you find a date from another school? Here are some ideas:

  • Ask around your neighborhood. Maybe there’s a guy or a girl who goes to a private school or a public school in the next town over. You can strike up a conversation with them, and see if they’re interested in going to prom with you.
  • Ask your friends or relatives. Maybe they know someone who goes to a different school, and who’s looking for a date. They can introduce you to them, and help you break the ice.
  • Ask someone you see at your extracurricular activities. Maybe you take music lessons, play sports, or do art at a place where you meet other teens from different schools. You can ask them if they want to go to prom with you, and bond over your shared interests.

4. The Date From Your Extracurricular Activity

Speaking of extracurricular activities, they can also be a great source of potential prom dates. If you spend your afternoons doing something you love, chances are you’ll meet someone who shares your passion. Whether it’s soccer, drawing, music, or karate, your prom date could be in your after-school activity mix. Why go with someone from your extracurricular activity?

  • You already have something in common, and you can talk about it.
  • You can show off your skills, and impress them with your talent.
  • You can have fun, and enjoy your hobby together.

If you’ve never hung out with them outside of your extracurricular activity, don’t be afraid. Just be friendly, and ask them casually. They’ll probably be flattered, and happy to go with you.

5. The Summer Fling

Prom time is the perfect time to rekindle last summer’s romance. Remember that camp counselor you worked (and flirted) with, that pool lifeguard that made your summer job bearable, or that cute guy or girl you met at the beach? They could be your prom date, if you reach out to them. How do you rekindle your summer fling?

  • Contact them. Send them a text, a call, or a message on social media. Ask them how they’re doing, and what they’re up to. Reminisce about the good times you had together, and see if they’re still interested in you.
  • Invite them. If they seem responsive, and eager to talk to you, invite them to prom. You can be direct, and say you miss them, and you want to see them again. Or you can be subtle, and say you have an extra ticket, and you need a date.
  • Reconnect with them. If they agree to go with you, make plans to meet up before prom. You can catch up, and rekindle the spark. If you happened to share a brief summer kiss, awesome. If you kind of wanted to but never did, prom could be your second chance.

6. Your Sibling’s Friend

They’re over your house all the time, usually in your brother or sister’s room, blasting music or eating every snack in the kitchen. You have a pretty good time joking back and forth, but could there be more between you two? Find out by asking them to prom. Why ask your sibling’s friend?

  • You already know them, and they know you. You don’t have to worry about awkward introductions, or making a good impression.
  • You have your sibling’s approval, and support. They can help you ask them out, and give you some tips on how to impress them.
  • You can have fun, and tease your sibling. They’ll probably be surprised, and amused, by your choice of date. You can make some jokes, and have a laugh.

7. An Older Date

Maybe you’re a little too mature for the teens in your grade. Maybe there’s an older guy or girl you’ve had your eye on for a while, but you were never quite sure how to approach them. Prom could be the perfect excuse to ask them out. Why go with an older date?

  • They’re more experienced, and confident. They know how to handle themselves, and how to treat you right. They can also show you the ropes, and help you navigate the prom night.
  • They’re more interesting, and attractive. They have more stories to tell, and more things to teach you. They also have more style, and charisma.
  • They’re more adventurous, and spontaneous. They’re not afraid to try new things, and have fun. They can also surprise you, and make your prom night unforgettable.

8. A Younger Date

Don’t rule out the teens in the grade or two below you. Maybe you’ve had your eye on the junior who plays on the same varsity team as you, or the sophomore who’s in chorus with you. A younger date is almost always thrilled to go to prom. Why go with a younger date?

  • They’re more enthusiastic, and energetic. They’re excited to go to prom, and they’ll make the most of it. They’ll also keep you on your toes, and make you feel young.
  • They’re more sweet, and innocent. They’re not jaded, or cynical. They’ll appreciate your attention, and your kindness. They’ll also make you feel special, and admired.
  • They’re more fun, and playful. They’re not uptight, or boring. They’ll make you laugh, and smile. They’ll also make you feel relaxed, and comfortable.


Finding a prom date doesn’t have to be hard or stressful. You can find a date among the people you already know, or you can branch out and meet someone new. The most important thing is to have fun and enjoy the night with someone who makes you happy.

Remember, prom is not just about romance, it’s also about friendship, memories, and celebration. So, don’t be afraid to ask someone to prom, and don’t be afraid to say yes if someone asks you. You never know, you may end up having the best night of your life.

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